What I Tell My Clients When They Say “I Just Want to Feel Like Myself Again”
It’s one of the most common things I hear from clients, from friends, even from myself:
“I just want to feel like myself again.”
When that line lands, it’s never said lightly. It comes from emotional exhaustion, from giving too much, from waking up one day and wondering when you disappeared.
Where Did “You” Go?
We don’t lose ourselves in one moment, it’s a thousand quiet, unnoticed ones.
- Saying yes when we meant no
- Smiling while swallowing our truth
- Carrying others’ pain without space for our own
- Numbing out just to make it through the day
I’ve been there too. I remember staring at my own reflection one night, mascara smudged, coffee cold, my tarot cards untouched on the table, and thinking, I don’t even recognize myself anymore.
I wasn’t sad. I was empty.
That scared me more than sadness ever had.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken. You’re just tired of being everything for everyone.
What I Say—And What I’m Still Learning Myself
🔸 You’re not lost. You’re just buried under survival.
The version of you that feels deeply, dreams boldly, and trusts her intuition is still there.
🔸 Numbness is your body’s alarm, not a personal failure.
Sometimes your light dims because you need rest, not repair.
🔸 Start with small truths, not big transformations.
Try saying:
- “I don’t know what I want, but I know this isn’t it.”
- “I miss feeling excited to get out of bed.”
- “I’m allowed to rest without earning it.”
That honesty is the path back.
🔸 Healing starts in the ordinary.
Your real self won’t come rushing back through a major breakthrough, but she might whisper during your morning coffee.
Have You Felt This Too?
Have you ever said those words, “I just want to feel like myself again”?
What helped you come back to yourself… or what are you still searching for?
Have you been putting on a brave face while quietly unraveling inside?
Let this space be safe enough to name it.
🌿 Key Takeaways to Hold Onto:
- You haven’t lost yourself, you’ve just been surviving.
- Your numbness is a sign to pause, not a sentence to carry forever.
- Small honesty is sacred. So is stillness.
- The path back to yourself is slow, soft, and real.
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Written by Allie | @EmpathAllie
Professional tarot reader, intuitive empath, and emotional truth-teller for women trying to find themselves again. Want a reading or more support? Explore my services on Keen.com at EmpathAllie, or follow me for daily intuitive guidance.
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